tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post8792501433689183187..comments2023-10-18T08:14:35.207-04:00Comments on Thistle Cove Farm: Dear Dave,Thistle Cove Farmhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/15722295191884810953noreply@blogger.comBlogger46125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-4968513007393707872012-01-08T16:23:00.917-05:002012-01-08T16:23:00.917-05:00I am sorry for your pain, God bless.I am sorry for your pain, God bless.Debhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04776612780796286407noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-65230089890502705092012-01-01T12:07:16.684-05:002012-01-01T12:07:16.684-05:00I love your heart and soul broken opened and share...I love your heart and soul broken opened and shared ~ I cry tears for you now ~ you said it best when you said you've known the love of a great man. May you also feel the love I am asking God to wrap you up in today.<br />Love, meRagamuffin Galhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16003794501642840802noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-81083792829084056092011-12-30T00:20:14.314-05:002011-12-30T00:20:14.314-05:00this reminded me of c. s. lewis' writings
afte...this reminded me of c. s. lewis' writings<br />after the loss of his beloved wife. so raw<br />and authentic.<br /><br />it also reminded me of jeremiah. dave<br />was blessed to have you, too.<br /><br />i'm sorry people are so unkind. if i were<br />in your place i would be in the fetal <br />position 24 hours a day.myletterstoemilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17555607498974287844noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-8006982314492674952011-12-29T14:46:33.190-05:002011-12-29T14:46:33.190-05:00Dear Thistle, please know that I am praying for yo...Dear Thistle, please know that I am praying for you too.Kimhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07992045408735413650noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-1667423135340653522011-12-28T13:52:05.457-05:002011-12-28T13:52:05.457-05:00Sandra, I am visiting your blog for the very first...Sandra, I am visiting your blog for the very first time, following the link given by a commenter on another blog I follow. I feel like I've stumbled into a private gathering of family after the loss of one of its beloved members.<br /><br />Your letter to Dave is overwhelming in its love, and honesty, and pain, and faith. Fifteen months ago my 48-year-old husband had a heart attack; the Lord must have known I could not raise our son (age eight at the time) without his father, and preserved him. My heart goes out to you; you are now on my prayer list and your blog is on my "followed" list.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01550786937196525098noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-7158812034820108622011-12-27T15:07:37.412-05:002011-12-27T15:07:37.412-05:00My heart is saddened by your loss. May you know t...My heart is saddened by your loss. May you know the healing and comfort of our Lord during this difficult time.yodafatkittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15265188657757288829noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-66717425199913635302011-12-25T20:19:03.473-05:002011-12-25T20:19:03.473-05:00How like a child to get it and say something so sw...How like a child to get it and say something so sweet. And often, we adults in our brokeness say something really stupid. <br /><br />You have been on my heart.<br /><br />Fondly,<br />GlendaGLENDA CHILDERShttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10413897395818998532noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-80292374550832339292011-12-25T16:21:02.968-05:002011-12-25T16:21:02.968-05:00Sandra you are a Beautiful Woman.. I love that you...Sandra you are a Beautiful Woman.. I love that you are honest to the core you are real about everything you feel and that is just the way God wants you. Your emotions, your feelings , your thoughts , I can't imagine anything more real they all make complete sense to me. God has given you a beautiful gift to share yourself and your hurt pain and sadness with us ..and what I read will stick with me all the days of my life and if I face such pain as you I will remember your words and it will give me comfort that someone else has trudged the path before me and left me with their thoughts and wisdom to fall upon. <br /><br />With Love ..SaraSweet Magnolias Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05681270114340786635noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-55140656696275842222011-12-25T09:00:44.274-05:002011-12-25T09:00:44.274-05:00You did what I have done time and time again . . ....You did what I have done time and time again . . . you wrote. I felt Gary's arms around me when I wrote to him, (knowing it wasn't the same, but it helped) and as I read your letter I was hoping it gave a moment of comfort to you in the midst of your unimaginable grief. <br /><br />Writing seemed to bring some kind of authenticity to grief for me . . . and yet it was so allusive because in the same breath the realization returned . . . and once again Iwould feel . . . "he is gone . . . "<br /><br />Heartless words and thoughts will no doubt continue . . . I hope your honesty extends right back to those words . . . I am sure I too have said heartless words to a bereft in my lifetime . . . unknowinly at the time . . . and if I have done so to you, I would hope you would "zing" me back so as to "teach" me. <br /><br />I am caring about you . . . right this moment. I trust you are holding Dave's professed love close to you today where you can reach out and grab a memory and think 'yes' with a smile . . . <br /><br />Beautiful love you shared . . . God knows and sends His blessing . . .Lynnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08723721131329150461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-70716562543196266022011-12-25T08:49:33.504-05:002011-12-25T08:49:33.504-05:00After reading your blog today and the comments I ...After reading your blog today and the comments I realize there is little I can add, except you are surrounded by the Light. God keep you as you walk through this dark valley and remember the key word is Through. A Christmas hug ( )A Cuppahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09693237947783580711noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-20616628037802021662011-12-25T05:08:53.050-05:002011-12-25T05:08:53.050-05:00Oh Sandra, you're loved , and prayed for.Bless...Oh Sandra, you're loved , and prayed for.Bless you and praise God for blessing your life with Dave, and blessing Dave with you.One day at a time, one prayer at a time...all anyone has really. I am praying for you.KathyB.https://www.blogger.com/profile/13076933273610590290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-22059545871129182522011-12-24T22:58:58.190-05:002011-12-24T22:58:58.190-05:00Merry Christmas Eve Sandra.
To the one who asked...Merry Christmas Eve Sandra. <br /><br />To the one who asked about selling the farm, she must have been related to the one who wanted to know if my friends herd was for sale, not a week after her passing.One can only hope for those of that ilk.<br /><br />You are doing great! We love you , God loves you, Dave loves you. Don't despair!goatldihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09578007710288051720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-51971868440718364852011-12-24T20:34:17.968-05:002011-12-24T20:34:17.968-05:00Hi Sandra,
I am praying for you, and will be pray...Hi Sandra,<br /><br />I am praying for you, and will be praying for you in the days to come.<br /><br />CCGThe Gardenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17742897680694683505noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-68819535702932865422011-12-24T08:24:58.789-05:002011-12-24T08:24:58.789-05:00The Grief will never go away, but you learn to go ...The Grief will never go away, but you learn to go on. Happy the Children are around you. Best thing. Listen to happy Music, that helped me. Good luck<br />and best wishes for a Better new year.<br /><br />yvonneLa Petite Galleryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09553902574516930172noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-71725046047355251382011-12-24T07:59:38.076-05:002011-12-24T07:59:38.076-05:00Your grief must be so great. I couldn't even i...Your grief must be so great. I couldn't even imagine. I'll be praying for you. For God's sustaining love to be poured out upon you in extra measure.Amberhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01520682388731742925noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-36442472804210011192011-12-24T00:34:18.347-05:002011-12-24T00:34:18.347-05:00I have been thinking of you and will keep you in m...I have been thinking of you and will keep you in my prayers. "Write, write, write," my grandmother told me when my best friend died years ago. "It will help ease the pain of your loss." Grief's a monster, but writing did--does--help. I wish you as much peace, love, and strength as you can feel. <br /><br />Oh, and for Dumb Stories of How Rude People Can Be Around Grieving People: I was asked at my friend's viewing "Was it a BAD accident?" (She had died in a car accident.) And I understood what they had meant, but I wanted to respond, "Clearly! It killed her!" Gahhhhhhhhhh, the stupid things people say at such times. And did they think I wanted to discuss the details of how "bad" it was in the first place, especially at her viewing?! That still burns me. Gah! Vent all you need to, and try to hold onto the wise and good things people say and do too. <br /><br />And what a blessing, indeed--it is clear to all of us--what a great husband yours was to you and what a gift his love was and is. That he was able to articulate it is richness beyond measure.<br /><br />Much Love,<br /><br />ValValhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04587080107116858971noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-16362789104363493672011-12-23T17:57:25.492-05:002011-12-23T17:57:25.492-05:00Sandra... I understand and am so sorry that your g...Sandra... I understand and am so sorry that your grief is so deep that breathing itself is almost too much effort, I pray that the Lord infuses each breath with His peace and comfort. I too, am so sorry you're enduring rude, cutting questions. One can hope they didn't mean to be rude and for lack of better quick verbal choices said what came to mind (not that that makes it hurt less). I'm so thankful that you and Dave knew such deep love, what a gift and even more that he accepted the Lord and you have that well founded expectation of hope in knowing that you will see him in heaven with joy!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-37139400574129258752011-12-23T14:52:34.240-05:002011-12-23T14:52:34.240-05:00Sandra - what a gift, a blessing.. to have a love ...Sandra - what a gift, a blessing.. to have a love like this. You're right..so many will never know that joy. <br /><br /> Warm wishes to you this holiday season -Karen thisoldhouse2.comhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03302171590212119499noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-20114999732687797602011-12-23T13:48:29.877-05:002011-12-23T13:48:29.877-05:00I will be forever amazed by people who speak befor...I will be forever amazed by people who speak before they think and edit their words. Praying for you daily. Love and hugs!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14698801749067092572noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-53138489433126578002011-12-23T09:59:33.352-05:002011-12-23T09:59:33.352-05:00I am a Christian, and I am praying for you. I kno...I am a Christian, and I am praying for you. I know there are no words that I can say to ease your pain. But I know that God will send His Holy Spirit, the Comforter, to lift you up when you feel low. His strength is made perfect in our weakness, and when we are grieving we are at our weakest. Hold fast to the thought that one day you will see Dave again. Praying for you my friend.Down On The Farmhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00172041056064630527noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-48618953774765385212011-12-23T09:33:14.086-05:002011-12-23T09:33:14.086-05:00I am a new reader of your blog and happened over t...I am a new reader of your blog and happened over through "This Old House 2". I am so sorry for the devastating loss of your husband. I have no idea what you are going through as losing a mate is very different than losing someone else, I would think. I did want to say that when I lost my mother 5 years ago, I was plunged into a grief that I could not even imagine. I walked around the house for 3 months in a total fog. I could not go to the grocery store without wanting to scream at people for being able to go on with their normal lives whilst I was suffering so! I lay down in the middle of the day and just stared into space. Friends were of little comfort, I am sad to say. NO ONE can understand until they have been there themselves. The worst expression EVER is: "I am so sorry for your loss!" I don't know what it was about those words, but my mother was not a "loss", she was my mother!!! The entire first year was horrific and I think I might have been a little depressed as time went on. Only my younger brother went through it the same way that I did and that was a comfort. Even after so much time now, I miss her every day. There is no replacement, but God has been good and I am more focused on eternity in my daily life now. I have since lost the grandfather who was like a father to me and that pain has been great, too. I know that I will see them both again and that brings me great joy on the worst days. I believe that we lose sight of the eternal in this modern world. Yes, we must live here and now, but for those of us believers suffering the death of loved ones, there is (AMEN!!!) the eternal joy! I am praying that God will Bless youy Richly in the days ahead with his everlasting comfort which is so valuable. BonnieBonniehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00768716917839658140noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-47738380203662457722011-12-23T08:56:11.156-05:002011-12-23T08:56:11.156-05:00Dearest Sandra, Although my heart has felt the sti...Dearest Sandra, Although my heart has felt the sting of death this yr, I've not lost my spouse and that is the ultimate pain. You are in my thoughts and prayers during most days. Hugs!Diane@Peaceful Acres Farmhttp://butterfliesandbumblebees.orgnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-77272398818463981122011-12-23T08:29:29.953-05:002011-12-23T08:29:29.953-05:00Sandra - just tears - all I have for you today is ...Sandra - just tears - all I have for you today is my tears. Will try to write something coherent in an email but right now - just know you are loved from afar!LindaSuehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01684545110832413808noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-21744026535906015212011-12-23T07:27:06.433-05:002011-12-23T07:27:06.433-05:00Wow, that was tough to read but so true. I'm ...Wow, that was tough to read but so true. I'm sure people are saying things that just hit you right to your core now. I'm praying for you and praying that you will be surrounded by people who have the right words to say to comfort you!!!Lois Christensenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04769791435665904180noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13163430.post-48599113107554558002011-12-23T06:11:59.259-05:002011-12-23T06:11:59.259-05:00Dear Sandra, thanks so much for popping in to see ...Dear Sandra, thanks so much for popping in to see me the other day. As I have said before I love your honesty. I know that I would feel those very same things if I lost my Rob, we too saved each other from horrors. I know because I have rehearsed just such conversations many times in my head before now (wrestled with panic attacks at such thoughts) & have experienced the insensitivities of others (christian woman!!) as I struggled through the last 20+ years of poor health & emotional difficulties. I have learnt to be a truth teller, a questioner & to be honest, sometimes, brutally whether it suits those around me or not. I've discovered that God is not phased by such frankness. There's no going back now, on that one. I am thinking of you in the uncomforted & raw place that you find yourself in this particular Christmas time. Much love Catherine xoxoCatherinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06377061243543771813noreply@blogger.com